Day #350 – Calming the Chaos

yellingMore wisdom from Tucker’s mom.  She addresses the issue of “God gives special kids to special parents” and reflects on the impact of yelling at kids and others.  I’m with her.  Don’t yell at anyone.  We are all special.  Click here for her post: Day #350 – Calming the Chaos

* Day #252 – Why We Do Art

Here’s an important perspective on tests and life as we approach the End-of-Grade test cycle.

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Rough day…great night.

Last week Tucker had a math test.  He has existing self-esteem (I can’t do it) issues (reread Day #241 – Flowering Self Esteem).  I struggle with this because I truly believe in the power of positive thinking.  It drives me CRAZY that he talks about failing before he even takes the test.

So…I went double time on him last Thursday/Friday.  I bribed him to repeat, “I will do good on my math test.”  By the time Friday morning came he was saying it on his own.  I sent him 24 positive and encouraging emails in 90 minutes.

He sent me a message after the test, “The test went okay.  I think I did okay.  ps – mom thanks for the encouragement.”

My heart melted…maybe, just maybe, this positive thinking could now be a learned skill.

Today when I picked him up he sat in the back…

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* Day #250 – Cry, Cry, Cry

This post is for all parents and teachers who hold it together when it’s hard, but are brave enough to acknowledge that it hurts.

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Yep, we’re Cash fans in our house.  Odd (but awesome), Johnny Cash has long been one of Tucker’s favorites.  Estelle’s favorite movie?  Walk the Line.  No, probably not the most appropriate movie for a 10-year-old…but it’s real life.  A movie about losing yourself, finding love, and then finding peace in life.

It’s a peace that sometimes escapes me.

Tucker is with his dad this weekend.  I struggle on these weekends, but not for the reasons one would think.  Sure, I miss him – but we still talk and/or text every day.

These weekends, when he is gone, I let it out.

All of it.

I lose my peace.

I spend a lot of the weekend in tears.

Crying about just wanting ‘one thing to go right for him.’
Crying about where we’ve been.
Crying about the uncertainties.
Crying about the unfairness.
Crying about math tests.
Crying about lost opportunities.
Crying…

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* 366 Days of Autism blog

366 days of autismI just happened upon a terrific blog called 366 Days of Autism.  Written by Nicole, a mother of an autistic middle schooler, this blog follows her son’s journey as they navigate school and social relationships.  Nicole writes that we could all be “on the spectrum,” but just deal differently with our “quirks.”  I also love this quote by Nicole:  My favorite phrase?, ‘My son is not disabled.  He is differently abled, by my standards I say perfectly abled.’

If you are searching for a well-written site with an abundance of valuable tips on life with an autistic child, this one is for you. “Day #261 Flowering Self-Esteem” is brilliant.  Everything I have read and seen is well worth the time.  Please check it out!