“How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Successes in Relationships” by Leil Lowndes, is a chameleon of a book. I was thrilled when my husband brought it home; he’d had a long wait at an airport and obviously thought of me. He knows I am always struggling with my social skills and this book is chock-full of tips for listening, making small talk, and transforming a social faux pas.
First I started reading, then backtracked to the table of contents. I was nonplussed. “How to Get What You Want on the Phone from Big Shots” and “How to Make the Sale with Your Eyeballs” made me think I had entered the world of multilevel marketing. Yet when I read some of the apparently “offensive” tips, I found integrity, humor, and commonsense. What kind of book is this? The author’s preface says it all:
There are two kinds of people in this life:
Those who walk into a room and say,
“Well, here I am!”
And those who walk in and say,
Ahh, there you are.”
I have discovered that “How to Talk to Anyone” is a perfect guide for people-pleasing, socially inept individuals like myself. I also think it would be a good read for older teens and adults with high functioning autism. Lowndes provides specific examples of sparkling introductions, conversation starters, and conversation repairs. And who knows? You might find yourself successfully selling used cars!